Tony Robbins: Our Beliefs Shape Our Reality ( Tony Robbins Law of Attraction )

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It has to be a compelling vision it’s
gotta have something as the power to pull you not something you have to push
yourself to do those are two different kinds of motivation push requires
willpower and willpower never last what will last is pull having something
so exciting so attractive so some of you desire so much that you have a hard time
going to sleep at night and get so up early in the morning to rock it and take
it to the next level that’s what you’re looking at great that wasn’t easy to get
but one of the reasons we do seminars and events and be saying you know why do
that why isn’t might not just read a book or something is because when you
get an environment where you with people that are being put in a peak state like
when you’re going to a sporting event if you watch the sporting event at home it
might have a certain level of excitement but when you’re in a stadium with 50,000
people suddenly it has a whole different level of intensity when we feel that and
the bottom line of our follow-through comes down to our emotional intensity in
a different state of mind you’re gonna come up with a much better and more
exciting vision than if you’re sitting the couch going okay what am i new
resolutions for this year and you’re doing it the morning after the new year
started and you’re a little inebriated and the football games on in the
background probably not gonna have the power of focus they’re probably not
gonna have the power of the energy to create something that’s gonna pull you
for this year and you got to do that so it’s got to be a vision that’s
compelling something that you know it’s gonna be a gift to make sure that it
happens and also along with that compelling vision you gotta have strong
enough reasons that you’re gonna follow through and the going gets tough that’s
one of the biggest things missing for most people they said this is what I
want to do it’s not very exciting it’s not very compelling but most importantly
they don’t have strong enough reasons to push themselves through what’s gonna be
necessary to get that dream to get that goal when the inevitable challenges come
up when you’re starving hungry and you’re trying to go on a diet right when
you got no time and you’re stressed out you haven’t worked out still and that’s
what you’re supposed to do when the economy gets tight and what you thought
you’re gonna do it doesn’t work and so you give up on the goal instead of
finding another way to get there you don’t let the fear take you over if you
got strong enough reasons those reasons can be positive or those reasons can
also be negative they can be if I don’t do this this it’s gonna cost me and if I
do to this I’m at a game in my life reasons come
first answers come second if you get a compelling vision and you got strong
enough reasons that will push you through the tough times you’re gonna do
things other people don’t do instead of collapsing even if you get off target
you won’t go oh I blew it you’ll get right back on target make the change
make things happen and I know you’ve done this in many areas your life just
think about it again I’m not teaching you something really new here today I
just want to remind you of what your soul knows you got a change you got to
be proved and you’ve got to go through a simple process fundamentally to make
that progress first step vision that’s compelling second step make sure that
they’re strong enough reason to follow through third step you’ve got to review
it and feel it every day I mean anything have you ever had this happen in your
life has there been anything in your life that you’ve ever wanted so badly
you were so desirous of it yeah it’s such a hunger for it that you couldn’t
stop thinking about it could been a career move could have been when you’re
a kid a car it could have been a relationship it could have been anything
but you were obsessed you wanted to make this happen you wanted to attract this
to your life you wanna you just wanted something and you didn’t even know how
to get it but it was so compelling to you kept thinking about it every day and
visioning and imagining it feeling it and then stuff happened and suddenly you
started attract people or situations to your life and it just came together like
you didn’t even have a total plan it was just that it was so a part of your focus
with so much intensity and emotion so often that it sensitized you to notice
anything that could get you there there’s a part of your brain called the
reticular activating system for short we call it the RAS that part of your brain
determines what you notice in the world and it’s really important because when
you set a goal when you get really clear in a vision they’re strong enough
reasons and you review it enough it becomes a part of you that part of your
brain says anything that relates to this I need to notice it’s like did you ever
buy a certain kind of car or maybe a certain outfit and suddenly you see that
car everywhere those outfits everywhere well you know the cars were always
around but why do you see it now because your Ras knows this is important this is
part of my world now similarly when you really get clear and it’s compelling
and you’re reviewing it everyday got strong reasons you’re viewing it every
day and you’re feeling it the brain becomes incredibly acute at noticing
anything to get you to move forward and so that’s the power of this so you know
what do people do with New Year’s resolution they come up with something
they kind of want it’s not a compelling vision they don’t really have strong
enough reasons and they never review it again until they notice that they broke
what they said they really want to have make happen because they didn’t really
resolve if you resolve you got the vision it’s compelling you review it
daily and you feel it you envision it and you experience it simple as it
sounds now ultimately what is this really about ultimately if you’re gonna
have lasting change in anything you’re really talking about just raising your
standards I mean I always tell people if you want to know how to change your life
and give it to you in three words boring as it sounds raise your standards and
what does that mean corny as it sounds raise your standards I’ll thank you for
the breakthrough thought Tony I’m glad I wasted my time watching this little
email with you but think about it lasting change is different than a goal
you don’t always get your goals but you always get your standards maybe they’ll
help you is to think about it this way I try to explain standards to people with
a different set of words think of it as everybody in life gets there must they
don’t get their shirts right think about it
you must be above a list of shoulds know if they don’t have a list of the shoulds
things you should do you should follow through on I I should lose some weight I
should work out more I should make more calls I should respond more rapidly to
my email whatever you know I should get into the office earlier I should be you
know more confident whatever your should list is people love to have their should
list make me met but it’s kind of like New Year’s resolutions if it does it’s
really exciting but if it doesn’t which is most the time it’s a little
disappointing but you kind of know it’s not gonna happen but when you decide
something as a must for you an absolute must when you cut up any possible you
say I’m gonna find the way I’m gonna make the way human beings when they
resolve things and they have make a real resolution inside themselves which is
they raise the standard they make it a must they find the way think about in
your own life happens you had some area of your life where you raise your
standard and your life has never been the same maybe at one time your life you
use smoke cigarettes or you did something and you did it for years and
you kept trying to change it trying to change it and
kept telling yourself I should and then one day something happened something
just clicked you over something took you over that kind of tipping point and
inside yourself you said no more it was a very very different experience wasn’t
it something inside has shifted and what was a should became a must and you’ve
never gone back is there an area like that in your life you could think of
again I ever smoked cigarettes did you ever
eat a certain way drink a certain form of alcohol and then finally saying no
more and you just don’t go back and notice this it doesn’t really take any
willpower anymore because somewhere when we make this click when we make
something a must we attach ourselves to it it becomes part of our identity the
one thing I’ve learned in the last gosh 33 years are working with people from
now over 100 countries 4 million people is human beings absolutely follow
through on who they believe they are and you said to me well I’m really gonna
work hard to stop smoking but you know I’ve been a smoker my whole life and I’m
you know I am a smoker I know your days are numbered you’re gonna be back
smoking cigarettes again because we all act consistent with who we believe we
are I tell people the strongest force in the
whole human personality is this need to stay consistent with how we define
ourselves if you define yourself as somebody who
is really conservative you’re not gonna be crazy and act nuts unless you’re
really drunk or something and then you can say it’s the alcohol when it really
does you finally getting permission to be yourself the alcohols your excuse if
you’re a really crazy person you act crazy outrageous playful you don’t have
conservative because that’s not who you are
third often people say well I can’t do that I’m not that kind of person and I
always say to people really when did you define yourself I mean really how many
years ago did you come up with what you could and couldn’t do in your life how
many years ago most people if they look at how they’re living their life today
it’s based on a set of standards a set of beliefs that they made choices about
10 20 30 or more years ago I’m very often we made decisions in our youth or
young about what to believe about what we were capable of about who we are as a
person and that becomes the glass ceiling if you will that controls us
there’s a corny metaphor but it’s true I remember one time I was with my family
at the circus and there’s a person there and they have this big giant elephant
and you look at this elephant and they take this little rope put around the
elephant’s neck and they drive the stake into the ground and I mean you look at
this you know that elephant could rip down the entire tent with almost no
effort and yet the elephant doesn’t struggle doesn’t try why because the
elephant’s conditioned and they take that elephant conditioned the elephant
when it’s a baby elephant that’s how they train them when it’s a little baby
Alif in it it doesn’t have the power yet they put a big rope around it and they
drive this huge stake in the ground and your elephant fights and fights and
fights and one day finally that often decides I’m not capable pulling this out
and once that becomes the definition of an identity of anyone an elephant in
this case they don’t even try anymore it’s just who I am that’s how it is
that’s just the way it is in my life I’d like to ask you to take a look at any
place you’ve got a limitation ask yourself when did I decide to accept
that limitation and you may not even see it as a limitation you might see they’re
just that’s who I am but so often in our lives we’ve adapted to be a certain way
so that we don’t fail or so that people will like us or respect us but it’s not
necessarily who we are joy comes when you’re spontaneous it’s really hard to
be truly happy when you’re not being yourself and most of us have no clue who
we are and so a big part of my work if you’ve ever been to an event you know is
to get people or do things spontaneously without thinking because that’s when the
real you shows up that’s when the energy comes alive and when you do that when
you start to connect your true nature suddenly there’s energy available for
you to set a higher standard for what you want in your life that’s what this
is really all about and when I talk about standards when I talk about you
know shoulds versus muss think about your own life I know there have been
areas in your life where some point in time you just shift it and you raise the
standard in your life change because whatever people have their identity
attached to they live we live who we believe we are that’s just how it works
it’s just kind of like I give an example look at your physical
body your physical body today is an absolute reflection of only one thing
not your goals not your desires but your standards the identity you have for
yourself if your standard is you’re an athlete then there’s a certain amount of
strength a muscle tone and energy that’s available in your body on a regular
basis because that’s who you are and so you do whatever is necessary to maintain
that identity again the strongest force and the human personality is this need
to stay consistent with how we define ourselves because if you don’t know who
you are you would not act once you lock in on that identity your brain finds a
way to keep you there if you say you know man I’m overweight I’ve always been
overweight I’m big-boned and that’s the story you’ve got and you’re gonna always
find a way to get back there that’s you’re settling point that’s your
identity that’s where things lock in if you see somebody who’s in really great
shape you ask him do you work out you know the answer yes how often and
they’ll tell you three times four times five times a week whatever in a seven
our last people who here works out at least five days a week and I’m stand-up
and you look around that room and you know that they work out five times a
week as you can see their body you don’t just get a result without some kind of
action without some form of ritual ritual meaning actions you do
consistently now do you think you knows people that are out there working out
five days a week do they have more time than you do or I have for anybody else
of course not is that a wife less busy of course not it’s just a must for them
they must work out that way and they’ve made that turn their life changed so I’m
not saying you have to work out five days a week I’m just saying whatever you
really want once don’t get met consistently standards do whatever you
identify this is Who I am and so it’s not so much about changing your identity
as this expanding it you know deciding that you know instead of your goals to
lose 10 pounds which is not compelling what if your vision was to get back to
my fighting weight you know this this this month this next 90 days I’m gonna
transform my body I’m gonna take on a new challenge I’m gonna find some
technique a strategy there’s a million of them that can reframe myself I want
to feel younger stronger more vibrant than ever before here’s my reasons
because I want the energy to really make my life work because it’s tough out
there and I want to be stronger than I’ve ever been before I want to go in
front of mirror and if I’m naked not you know want to laugh I will look there and
take a good look and go yeah no basics that if you start to shift it everything
else will shift in your life as well some people by the way have to have more
than enough money to do what they want when they want where they want with
whomever they want contribute the way they want if that’s there must they find
a way I know that sounds overly simplistic but it’s true now somebody
once said you can take all the money in the world out of the hands of everybody
out of all the wealthy people in the world who are really successful given
other people it wouldn’t take too long those people would have it back on their
hands it’s not because their manipulator it’s because they have a standard some
are manipulated all get me wrong but they’ve got a standard of what they’re
gonna find a way to make happen I’m just simply saying to you take those three
magic words and live them raise your standard if you really want to do it
then I’ll tell you the most important secret have you ever done this have you
ever told yourself you’re raised you’re saying okay I’m gonna go make this
happen I’m gonna go make this much money I’m gonna transform my kids I’m gonna
create the ultimate relationship of my life I’m gonna transform my body
whatever it is and then you don’t have strong enough reasons and you don’t lose
use it you don’t follow through it’s because you didn’t back up your
standards with what makes those standards real and that’s rituals
rituals all of the power is whenever we do our Robbins results coaching and we
did Robbins equals results late we get results with people it’s the same way if
you listen to my ultimate edge program are back in the old days personal power
or if you went to one of my seminars you know what I do is I take these huge
challenges you got and we break them down into little bite-sized steps little
things you do each day that after you do them you get so much momentum that it’s
easy to succeed you’re not overwhelmed you have these victory day after day
after day and little things if you’d went to ultimate edge I’m sure you
learned about the hour of power or to 15 minutes to be able to be fulfilled or 30
minutes to thrive where he literally just can
in your body and emotion with a couple little rituals so doesn’t matter what’s
going on in your world you feel that strength and it’s not fake it’s not some
pump up it’s coming from inside you and it works rituals define us see all the
results in your life are coming from your rituals they start with a standard
and then have rituals that follow it up like for example if you are where you
want to be physically you have very different rituals than if you’re not
where you want to be physically if you’re overweight you and I both know
you got a different ritual than if you’re physically fit completely
different you get up in the morning what’s the first thing you do if you’re
fit your shoes are there you roll over the matter how you feel you put on your
shoes you lacing you start walking or whatever that ritual is if you’re
overweight you roll over and you have a very different ritual you might roll
over several times to turn the alarm clock off you go in and get your mocha
mocha whatever you know special coffee stop by at Starbucks or over the case
maybe you have your nice sugar muffin you know it’s supposed to be really nice
for you whatever you do it’s a different ritual if you have a great passionate
relationship you have very different rituals and how you come home than if
you have a lousy relationship you come home and the first thing you do is
you’re tweeting somebody or you’re emailing or flipping on the news or you
don’t even come home and what are the rituals
whenever I study people that are successful well I look for is what’s the
standard they hold himself to and then what are all those little rituals that
up because think about it success and failure are not giant events
they don’t just show up you don’t just suddenly become successful or suddenly
have this cataclysmic event that makes you fail it may look that way but
failure comes from all the little things its failure to make the call its failure
to check the books its failure to say I’m sorry
it’s failure to push yourself to do things physically that you don’t want to
do and all those little failures day after day come together until one day
some Cataclysm event happens you blame that that event happened because you
missed all the little stuff degree with me and success by the way is not some
overnight event it’s all these little things success is having a vision
success is making it compelling success is really seeing and feeling and
everyday it was strong enough for reasons
Sassie is feeling the sense that i’m here to grow and I’m here to give to
something to the world more than just myself success is caring about other
people’s success is calling and saying I love you in the middle of the day for no
damn reason or sending a note that will change your relationship have a ritual
of something funny playful or a surprise you do how many relationships are dead
today because they have no surprise rituals anymore you need to have some
rituals some cool things you do that nobody else does that gives you a better
life than anybody else has all the little stuff that’s where success comes
from in business it comes from delivering more than anybody could
imagine all those little things add up people go wow that’s who I want to do
business with it’s true in any area of your life so if you look at somebody’s
really successful in you think wow I mean they’re so amazing they’re such a
genius you kind of dig underneath you gotta remember something people are
rewarded in public from what they’ve practiced for years in private myself
and my business people say how do you get up and speaking you have no notes
and you go for three days and nights and the room is like he’s wired it’s
incredible if like a rock concert how do you do that how do you have that
confidence oh and you know it’s not confidence it’s experience now but I did
so much behind the scenes that I still do to make things right I mean how many
people would know that since the time I was 17 years old before I walked on
stage still do to this day wouldn’t need to do it but I still do it I never walk
out there without being in an absolute peak state of mine you know there are
days my back is hurting my throat was hurting or I may have had a challenger
my father passed away and I still got to deliver for these people because my
standard is give my all every time everything has to be better talk to
anybody has been to events for five ten years some of our trainers and I was a I
don’t know he does it he’s always finds a way to make it better that’s not an
ego thing that’s a standard in me I have to find the way and my ritual though is
I prepare I think I gather new information I figure out how to put
something across better what do people need I spend time with our customers I
see what’s going on and before I get on stage each time I have this little
ritual to put myself in a state of mine and I did it starting with like 17 years
old I started doing it say I now command my subconscious mind
I say this out loud several times this little phrase set of phrases as an
incantation to kind of condition my mind and body and that’s an now command my
subconscious mind to direct me and helping as many people as possible today
by giving me the strength and the emotion and the humor and the brevity
whatever it takes to show this person and help this person change their life
now and I started out with a person when I work with people one-on-one and I
would do that for 45 minutes driving in my Volkswagen to go serve and come to
somebody for the first time now I don’t say that person I say these people and I
can go out in the room of 10,000 people and deliver for 50 hours and I do it
every time I come back on stage it’s a ritual a ritual to go in a peak stay
Peaks they don’t to show up they don’t interrupt you great ideas don’t
interrupt you got to pursue them I talk to Michael Jordan I’ll never forget dad
the peak of his career and got to watch his final games saw him backstage and
spent some time with him and there’s pretty exciting time this famous
basketball player and I think that ever lived and has ever lived and I asked
them I said you know what sets you apart Michael you know what is it and is it
god-given talent ability skill what is it needs to tell me you know he said I
can shoot you straight you know it’s not you know me trying to act humble he goes
I have a lot of talent lot of god-given talent lot of skill I’ve worked really
hard but he said really it’s my standards he said every day I demand
more for myself than anybody else could humanly expect I’m not competing with
somebody else I’m competing with while I’m capable of hmm magic formula because
most of us lower our standards why because who you spend time with my
friends is who you become one of the biggest reasons I started go to seminars
when I was like 17 is I had nobody around me is a great role model I can
read about somebody but being around people being in that environment was
very different finding way to go to work with someone who lived that standard of
life was very different you get around people at low standards and you compete
with it you don’t need to compete with it it’s
like okay I mean remember Jerry Springer I don’t he’s still in the air but you
know I never used to get people on the show I thought where would he find these
people and why would people watch all three why they watch they watch these
people go my wife’s know pretty darn good cuz they’re that person look at
them you don’t have to change your life all you have to do is find somebody with
a lower standard you’ll feel good about yourself
but if you feel that good feeling it’s an illusion the only thing that’s gonna
make you happy when the seconds hundredth of a second he pushed himself
just beyond his competitor but you know about Michael Phelps what allow them be
able push beyond that moment is this rituals go steady the guy most people
who swim have these unbelievable workouts he does two and three of the
workout sessions a day all the other swimmers in the beginning thought he was
insane you could over train you can’t do that
it’s not physically possible but he had a standard and the rituals to back it up
so here’s my final message to you because I’ve gotten carried away if I
was gonna send you like a five-minute message but you can see there’s no
script here it’s just me gonna go crazy with you but I want to really see you
get what you want this year don’t let this year be like last and if last year
was great still don’t let it be that way raise the standard your life is perfect
and extraordinary you darn well know you’re not gonna be happy unless you
keep making it better that’s what makes us feel alive it’s not what we get that
make us happy it’s who we become and what we’re able to give because we
become more that sense of contribution is what creates the deepest meaning so
here’s my assignment for if you want one if you want to go from conversation to
some action your simple thing to do what’s an area your life right now that
you really want improve what’s an area that’s important to improve it’s your
body’s great how about your current careers great about your relationship
intimate one especially or your kids or your relationship with your Creator your
spiritual side of your life or is it your finances figure an area that really
matters decide on that area number one write down what your life is like in
that area right now specifically as possible so you might say well I’m 13.5
pounds overweight you know whatever the weight is whatever the situation is or
my body fats like this or I make up exhausted in the morning and you write
the truth of where you are right now so you’re real clear or I’m not in a
relationship I say I want a relationship but I I’m not in one I don’t seem to
find them all the good ones seem to be gone is my belief you know and I really
do want one but I don’t have it whatever your definition I’m in a relationship
and god I wish I wasn’t in a relationship I’m planning my escape
wherever you are or I have a wonderful relationship we’d love each other but
there just isn’t enough passion just like the truth of where you are the air
you want to change right how it is and then the second step
is that’s where you got to be really honest with yourself what are the
rituals that have put me there because whatever results you’re getting even if
you don’t like the results there’s some rituals that are keeping you in that
place there’s some rituals of what you eat or don’t eat how you move or don’t
move how you sleep or don’t sleep there’s some rituals and the lack of
variety or spice or energy or focus in an area there’s something you’re doing
and it’s usually not one thing it’s a bunch of little things they kind of do
consistently whatever you think about getting in a relationship whatever you
think about working out whenever you think about money and get yourself in a
state of overwhelm you start thinking about all the things you can’t control
just write down all the rituals you have and then here’s the third step what do
you want what’s your vision and be really specific I want to be my fighting
weight I want to be the strongest I’ve ever felt I want to be I’m gonna turn my
whatever it is be specific and then last step number four what are the rituals
that will get you there what would you need it differently each morning if
you’re going to be that kind of energy that kind of strength how would you have
to – would you work out what days would you work out what time a ritual is
something you do consistently usually at a specific time so becomes automatic you

 

16 Responses

  1. Erick Turnbull and Friends

    May 9, 2018 5:35 am

    what is the hypnotic shape things moving around? screen saver? thanks for the post

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  2. Patricia Reyes

    December 18, 2018 12:54 am

    Thanks very helpful! I think i got to a place in myself to little by little to be who i am really are. All i want is my kids to be happy and keep peace in my life. I am just being now who i am. Without no one controlling me. I enjoying my time my routine! What ever life gives me i am thankful! I sing to give happinesa to me and others. It lifts my spirit music! Learning to value me! I do have a vision and want to help others to be happy! I love connecting with others thru music! I command to help myself to stay focus! This next will be better!

    Reply
  3. How life Works

    January 20, 2019 6:31 am

    my personal favorite : success and failure are not big events they are compounded by small actions that looks like doesn't matter

    Reply
  4. bullitlbc

    May 30, 2019 4:15 pm

    This is not an excuse, but I want to start working out again. But explain how can I do it when I have a 1 yr old with no babysitter. Mom works dad works. How can I make time

    Reply
  5. I Want To Help Families

    August 23, 2019 5:20 pm

    It's not what we GET that makes us HAPPY, but rather what we BECOME & are able to GIVE & CONTRIBUTE to life & others. Love that truth!!!

    Reply
  6. yshk viswanatham

    August 27, 2019 1:15 pm

    Figure out why you are not happy. .what figure I don't know how I feel now it not imazing myself . What is figure ?

    Reply
  7. Silver Fever

    August 27, 2019 9:03 pm

    Thankyou for bringing this knowledge to the People…All off us need to here these positive words..69Karma69

    Reply
  8. Giovanni Bellavita

    September 6, 2019 2:04 pm

    you are a god …. i have been in one of your events … 15 years ago … and look forward to more ….

    Reply
  9. B Adventures Vlogs

    November 26, 2019 3:10 pm

    Raise your standards. Build good habits and rituals. People are rewarded in public for what they practised in private. Focus on fixing yourself and getting good 👍

    Reply

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